A Letter to a Friend

Written by Rachel Gerbitz / March 2018


Let’s take a moment and flashback to May 23rd, 2015. We stayed up late the night before to watch High School Musical 3 and woke up early that morning to walk across a stage wearing green gowns. The gym was decorated and our dorm rooms were packed. It was arguably the most significant day of my short life thus far, the day we graduated high school. I remember the rush of emotions, the fleeting sadness that was overwhelmed by happiness to finally be done with high school. We had great big plans and nothing in our way. Sure, there were plenty of tears. I know I was sad to leave. Why was I so sad? I was finally free after being away from home for four years. I was about to go to my dream college. But why was my heart still holding me back to the place I couldn’t wait to leave?

Flash forward almost three years later. I bet May 23rd, 2015 was the last time I spoke to most of you. We left each other with big dreams and big plans and set out on our own great larks. Of course we planned to stay in touch, and we all truly meant what we said. But one day, life caught up to us and suddenly I had no idea who you ate lunch with or what classes you were taking. We went off to conquer the world on our own. And even though we didn’t visit each other every other weekend or text every day, we went armed with Immanuel. God was with us every step of the way.

I read a quote before we graduated that really stuck with me that day. C.S. Lewis wrote “For a Christian, there are, strictly speaking, no chances. A secret Master of the Ceremonies has been at work. Christ, who said to the disciples ‘Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you,’ can truly say to every group of Christian friends ‘You have not chosen one another, but I have chosen you for one another.’ The friendship is not a reward for our discrimination and good taste in finding one another out. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each the beauties of all the others.”

No matter how far we go, we are always tied together by our love for Christ and His love for us.

My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. John 15:12-15