You Are Who Your Friends Are

Written by Lydia Albrecht / March 2017


“You are who your friends are.” I’m sure that most of you have heard that expression. I, for one believe that it’s absolutely true, which is why I want to express the importance of keeping your Christian friends close at this time of your life, as well as for the rest of it.

“The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26

In college, or just in young adult life in general, temptations are abounding. Sex, alcohol, and drugs are all things that we were cautioned about in our adolescence. Now that I am a senior in college, I understand why. These temptations are presented everywhere. Rarely do I ever go into a class early and not hear one of my fellow classmates talking about a crazy party they went to this weekend or this stranger that they hooked up with. If I were alone, and did not have my Christian friends around me every day, I can see how it would be really easy to fall into temptation. It’s one of those, “everybody else is doing it, and I just want to fit in” types of things. It simply doesn’t seem as bad when you see everyone else doing it. It’s like if you see a bunch of people jumping off of a cliff into the water below and they seem fine, you start thinking maybe I should do that too.

There is a special bond between Christian friends which is found in the shared belief of God’s saving love for you.

If you aren’t close to any of your Christian friends, try to stay in touch with them. Having this extra resource is a gift and can serve as a stress-reliever in your life. There have been many times when I have been in an unpleasant mood because I have so many things to do, or just that the toils of life are weighing on me, and we have our weekly editors’ conference call, or my roommates and I have a devotion, and I feel immediately better because I remember how trivial the worries of this life are. Heaven is our home. Without Christian friends, it’s really easy to get caught up in this sinful world we live in and forget the things that are really important.

“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.” Colossians 3:1

God gives Christian friends to us as a tremendous blessing to help us through this veil of tears. There are countless times when I have prayed to God for comfort or asking Him what I should do, and I see that prayer answered through one of my friends sharing God’s Word with me. So, not only keep your friends close for your own comfort, but also keep a lookout for a friend who needs help. You may be the person that the Lord uses to help that friend in their time of need.

“And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24, 25

There is a special bond between Christian friends which is found in the shared belief of God’s saving love for you. How wonderful it is that God gives us friends to join in hearing His Word and praising Him for our salvation.

Blest be the tie that binds our hearts in Christian love;
The fellowship of kindred minds is like to that above.
Before our Father’s throne, we pour our ardent prayers;
Our fear, our hopes, our aims, are one, our comforts and our cares.
We share our mutual woes, our mutual burdens bear,
And often for each other flows the sympathizing tear. TLH 464

I pray Thee, dear Lord Jesus,
My heart to keep and train
That I Thy holy temple
From youth to age remain.
Turn Thou my thoughts forever
From worldly wisdom’s lore;
If I but learn to know Thee,
I shall not want for more. TLH 655